The more involved I become in the animal rights movement- the more I realize just how little I have in common with the people in my life anymore. I try not to dwell on our differences, but I find it gets harder and harder to interact with people who see no worth in the creatures I love and fight for.

They say things that not only offend me, but break my heart. I hear things like "They're called Livestock for a reason" & "Animals are made to be eaten", and it enrages me that even though these people I call friends are informed, and aware- they continue on with this mindset. Their lack of empathy towards other creatures is so appalling that I find it hard to interact with them anymore.

I've tried, I have really tried to be a positive example and show them in a kind way that animals are not here for us to use as we please, that they are not ours to decide whether they live or die- but I feel as though I'm talking to a wall.

A brick wall of apathy, cruelty, and false comforts.

 Because of this, I find myself becoming more and more isolated from people. I see them, and I see the culprits behind the pain, abuse and cruelty that I fight against on a daily basis; at times it feels as though I am at war with the world.
When My eyes were opened to the truth- the inevitable horrors that all consumers of animal products contribute to, I could not bear another day knowing I was a part of such horrendous and despicable crimes against animals.

When I learned the realities of the meat and dairy industries- I changed immediately. I knew that the purpose of my life was to protect and fight for the animals I love at all costs.
So, when others see and hear the truth as I did- why don't they change? Why is the connection not made? I find it so hard to grasp this.

It makes no sense to me why the facts do not shake people to their core and bring them into the light. They have eyes that see and ears that hear and yet they remain in the dark.

Is it ignorance? I cannot say. While people seem intellectual in a variety of ways- they continue to live in a way so hazardous and evil, it makes me question what intelligence really is.

Could it be that people simply don't care? Could my own species be so selfish and greedy that the suffering of other beings means nothing to them? I find that quite possible.

Or maybe it is fear? Fear of change. Fear of acknowledging the way of life one has become accustomed to, has really been the sole source of pain and anguish for those who are the most innocent on this planet. Perhaps this fear of truth is what makes people turn a blind eye. Maybe people find that it's easier to remain unaware and sightless instead of confronting their wrongs and making a change.

These possibilities are all excuses in my eyes. Poor justifications for living a life that is sustained by taking the lives of others. It's simply not something I can tolerate any longer. I cannot sit idly by with a painted smile on my face as the people around me willingly partake in death and destruction.

I am angry. I am ashamed. And most of all I am disappointed.

At times, these feelings are so strong it makes it very difficult to even be near other people.

Am I wrong to feel this? Am I a bad person to think so lowly of my fellow species?

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Comment by Mugan on February 3, 2013 at 11:40am

well, coming from a pessimistic misanthrope my words may not mean much, but I wouldn't consider you wrong or a bad person for feeling the way you do. You have every right too. It would be a betrayal to who you are as a person to feel otherwise giving the circumstances.

Comment by Ciarra Dawn on February 3, 2013 at 11:43am

Thank you Mugan- Your words do mean much :) I have to agree with you!

Comment by BRUCE PETERSON on February 3, 2013 at 12:09pm

 Ciarra Dawn - You are right on your feelings. I have a very hard time trying to over look what the majority of people choose to over look to continue eating our fellow creatures. I post pro-vegetarian information on FB often. Most people don't reply, but I know that some of my FB friends are reconsidering their eating habits. So I know I'm making a bit of a difference. If each of us can educate even a few more people then we will all help make a change in the World's cruel actions. If I think about too much it gets very depressing. Continue trying to make a difference - don't give up.

Comment by Laura on February 3, 2013 at 12:43pm

Wow, thank you for saying this. I feel the same way! The more and more you become compationate for animal rights the more you realize how much most of the rest of our species doesn't seem to care. It's disgusting. Even the well educated ones who have seen the pain and anguish still don't care. I hate the whole "They are here for us to eat," as if they don't have feelings and are simpy alive for us to kill.

I try to make those around me as knowledgable on it as possible. I have people who support me all the way- and yet still don't care enough to give it a try themselves. I understand how you feel about being isolated from people. I can't stand to look at some people knowing that they contribute (not to mention don't even care) about the suffering of another living creature. On the other hand I have influenced people to try vegetarian. A friend of mine (who's family even goes so far as to hunt deer) told me the other day that she saw a video on animal cruelty and wanted my help cutting back on meat. Another old friend of mine from high school sent me a message saying she wanted to go veg and asked me for advice. Being veg IS getting more popular and although I do think we are making a difference for the animals, I don't think it's enough! There are far too many people who don't know enough about it and don't want to.

I use the argument of "Meat and dairy has been proven to cause heart disease and cancer." SO, I think you're right, it's ignorance. Because I get the ignorant response of "I don't care if I get cancer I love meat too much." or, "Getting cancer is worth eating delicious animal," and far worse responses I have heard form carnivores.

My biggest pet peeve is when someone says "I love animals, but I could never give up eating meat." My personal opinion is that you can not love animals and eat them too. It baffles me how people just turn a blind eye. Nobody wants to admit they're contributing to the suffering. There is nothing humane about murder as I do consider the killing of animals to be worthy of the title "murder".

I honestly have lost such hope for humanity.

Comment by Ciarra Dawn on February 3, 2013 at 12:58pm

Bruce, You are so right-We each do a part in making this world a better place so I suppose we need to concentrate on that, I get so overwhelmed and depressed when I think of all the bad things. Many thanks for your positive comment! Feel free to add me on Fb if you wish, the more cruelty free people the better!

Ciarra Welsh @

Laura- I relate, agree, and love all that you said- I too am struggling with all that you mentioned- thank you for commenting and I'm glad you like the post!  I cannot believe some people- they truly make me angry and frustrated. I'm on the prowl for like minded vegans all the time so if you'd like- feel free to add me on facebook :)

Ciarra Welsh @

Comment by Danielle S on February 4, 2013 at 1:49am

Hi Ciarra,

I know how you feel, but in all of the years I have spent as a vegetarian I have found that there is no point in trying to argue with people or convert them. They feel how they feel and most of the time they are fixed in their beliefs that animals are food. On the other hand, I'm also fixed in that I feel animals aren't meant to be slaughtered and used as food. So what I have done is become a detached observer - I pretend to watch a movie about my life. Anytime someone questions me about my beliefs I politely tell them that it's a personal choice all while pretending that I'm watching a movie about my life. Being detached helps me control my emotions!! If I lash out or react in a violent way in order to fight violence with violence then I am no better than them!! As Gandhi said "You must be the change you want to see in this world!"

Comment by Ciarra Dawn on February 4, 2013 at 2:09am

I can agree with you in a way Danielle!

But my problem is that I cannot detach myself like that. I do not preach to people, and I do not go around telling people how to live- but I do stand up for what I believe when it is challenged and I always fight against animal injustice- I can't detach myself from that- I feel as though I would let the animals down if I did.

I do all that I can to live by example and have even shown people the road of compassion- but I cannot and will not tolerate ignorance and people who see no wrong in killing my friends.

I am thoroughly disappointed with the human race- ultimately because I know they are capable of change but refuse it. 

I do want to see a change in this world, and I believe change only comes with action. Some people are fixed in their ways and that is true,and I will not waste time on people like that. But many others just need to see the light- and I will do all I can to show it to them.

I own it to the animals and this planet to do so.

Thanks for commenting!

Comment by Danielle S on February 4, 2013 at 2:23am
Yeah I agree that it's really sad to see all the torture that animals have to go through!! Part of the reason that I detach is so I can use my energy where is matters most - so I can meditate and send light to animals and people!! There was a study done in the crime capital of North America - Washington, DC - and they got 2,000 yogis to meditate during 1 summer and found that at the end of the summer crime rates dropped by 25%. There is something to spreading compassionate in a subconscious way!! Anyway thanks for your post :) I wish you all the best!! I know it's a tough fight, but I think in time you will find the best way for you personally to deal!!!!!!!!!!
Comment by Ciarra Dawn on February 5, 2013 at 3:35am

Hi Grace :)

I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way- it's one of the most difficult things I've been dealing with- I don't want to dislike people and feel frustration and anger at them but it's so painful to me, what they are doing. I wish I didnt feel so connected to the animals sometimes because of this but I love them, and I can't escape how it feels knowing the people around me are doing something so wicked- even knowing the truth. It's very hard!

Comment by Lauren Woods on February 5, 2013 at 9:15am

I can definitely relate. I generally operate on the frequency, "Well if they believed as I did, they wouldn't do these evil things." So I educate them- and then... they still don't listen. Well some don't, and it blows my mind... I thought surely if they realized certain things, they would be outraged and change, but I guess I underestimated people's overwhelming desires to protect their egos, and their ways of life. Humans hate change, and they'll go to crazy lengths to cling to tradition, no matter how evil it is. Very sad. Cognitive dissonance- the great evil of the animal right's movement. "Because I do this, and have always done this, it is right."


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